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The Art of Flirting

art of flirting
I guess you've heard the most common pick up lines like "I think I've died and gone to heaven because I see a beautiful angel before me." Or something like this..."Will someone turn up the cooler, it just got hot the moment you walked in." If you've seen the movie "Memoirs of a Geisha" there is that scene where the girl distracts a boy on a bike and he loses his balance; then her teacher tells her "You are ready." It comes to show that flirting is not just something that people do for fun, but it is actually considered an art that has been developed and mastered by courtesans, geishas and debonair men and women for as long as history can account for.

Some people think that flirting is a talent, a gift that only a lucky few posses. Many think that this cannot be learned. Although it is true that to some people, flirting is like second nature and requires no effort at all on their part. Most think that the only successful flirts are due to good looks and charm. To so many of us common folk, flirting seems quite difficult especially for people who are just starting to date. There is that risk that if the flirting is not done well, you can get rejected over and over; and if your efforts are over done you can be charged with sexual harassment. Finding the right people and flirting can be difficult even if done on online dating sites. There are several factors in play to be able to master the art of flirting and some of these you probably already know; but of course just like so many skills, some things are easier said than done.


You would be surprised what a great deal of confidence can do for your love life. It doesn't matter if you are not that good looking or have an extra pounds, as long as you do not let others get you down and you can carry yourself well, you will eventually find someone to respond to your flirting in a positive way. Confident people know who they are and embrace the identity they have. Another trait of confident people is that they know what they want and what can be achieved. Your past rejections may be due to lack of confidence. Ask yourself now; do I know who I really am? Do I know what I want?

Dress up

One way to improve your chances with flirting is to work on your looks. Some fashion consultation may be done, but if you do not have enough budgets for that, you may opt to search the latest trends in fashion and the appropriate clothing for your body size and shape as well. You may think that clothing is just a small aspect in the dating strategies you will need, but in fact, it is actually a crucial ingredient to a successful flirting experience. The visual aspect is very important because attraction starts with making the other look at you and like you, for you to be able to approach without having the other retreat.

Also, a visit to your dermatologist and hair salon would also be helpful in improving your looks. It will also help to see others turning their heads just to look at you in admiration. If you like the way you look and know you look good, it would be a big confidence booster as well. You wouldn't be shy to approach whoever you like.

Understanding the psychology

Flirting is not just knowing the right pick-up lines or seducing your date with your hot body. It is also, understanding how your date thinks, so you can anticipate the reaction to whatever moves you will make. You have to appeal to the likes of your date and be sensitive to the needs of the one you are with. You have to know the sensitivity of your date as well. Is your date more visual and interested in the things that is seen; is your date a feeling person and is very emotional, thus reacts to sentimental talk; or is your date auditory or sensitive to what is being heard? If so, a good conversation and sense of humour is in order.

Body Language

Lastly, it is important to know the proper body language that will entice your date towards you. There are certain body languages that are used to flirt with others. Eye contact is crucial. You have to look your date in the eye and hang on to every word the person says. Biting your lips a few times within a date sends signals that you want to kiss your date. Do a research on the other body languages that show flirting and seduction.

These guides may be basic but still take time to master. As they say, practice makes perfect. Don't be afraid of rejection because that is part of the experience. All you need to know is that you have to be true to yourself and be your own person. There is someone out there who will like you for who you really are.

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