You need to like yourself first

Strange as it may sound at first, the keystone in getting along with others is getting along with yourself. At hmherdating.com the free online dating website, we believe that fundamental to every large and small interaction between people is a civilized acceptance of you, and pleasure in yourself. Try this and date confidently with local singles from your area dating free at www.himherdating.net. "LOVE THY neighbour as thyself" ( notice that it say "as", not "instead of") is found in some form in almost all great religions, and its importance and truth is recognized by modern day psychiatry as well.

The first step in liking yourself is to know who you are, and to start exploring yourself. Spend some time every day with yourself. Think of all your achievements, and the good things that you have given to the society. Take pride in all those things. Explore the person inside you. What are your unique qualities that make you who you are? Remember that each of us is unique and an adorable creation of God. No, two straws of grass are identical. Each petal of a flower is different and has it's own identity and together they make the beautiful flower. In the same way, we all have our own identity and together we form this beautiful society. God created you as original, so don't try to become a copy of another person. Explore your uniqueness and take pride in it. Then the feelings of anxiety, self-scrutiny and insecurity will go away as a hot air balloon. You will become comfortable with yourself.

Our relationship with others are a reflection of our inner equilibrium. So, it's extremely important that we completely recognize our identity, and reach the equilibrium with the inner being. Once we recognize the inner self, we must love it, we must admire ourselves, and be proud of our qualities and achievements. It will make us more self-confident and self-reliant. Now, when you say that you like yourself, you really mean it. It's not simply a superficial thing, it now comes from your heart, and people will surely notice that.

When you truly like yourself and focus on yourself, you are the most authentic that you can be. When you are living authentically, you are more likely to attract an authentic match. When you are feeling aligned and connected to your wants, you have a better vantage point from which to make decisions. Don't live anybody's truth but your own. It is simply exhausting and absolutely unfulfilling to embody other people's values. You have one life, so stand firm and proud in it.

Go ahead. Love yourself. Treat yourself well. Rejuvenate yourself. You will discover that, the more you love yourself, the more you will be able to give love to others, and the more others will want to be around you and give back to you. This is a win-win situation. Loving yourself will ultimately benefit the lives of others you encounter, as well as your own life.